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Can I say thank you for running this blog. I've been bullied all my life for my weight and I've had people turn to me and say that I should die because of my size. I've hated myself avidly for a huge part of my life until I came across this blog a few months ago and it made me think. I've started to learn not to give a damn and just enjoy life for who I am. I'm healthy, I'm loved by my family and friends so why should I care what others think? Thank you very much.


yes yes yes yes! this is what we love to hear!!! i’m sorry that you had to deal with bullying in the past; it’s an all-too-common thread running through our lives as fat people. but isn’t it wonderful to find other folks who are proud and love themselves and realize you can have that, too?!

06:45 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 23

Do you know some male fat-positive bloggers on Tumblr? Red3blog is the only one I know but I want to check out some others.


Don’t know any off the top of my head, but if you go to these tumblrs, you can probably find some!

chubbyguyswag

chubstr

fuckyeahchubbyguysofcolor

onlycutechubbyguys

11:09 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 23

How are you so confident.


Practice, and a constant refrain of “fuck YOU fuck OFF motherfucker MOVE i am way out of your league” etc. running through my head.

Basically, fake it til you make it.  Or the nice version, courtesy of Kyeli Smith - what you do will become true.  

As flippant as that sounds, I’m dead serious.  Practice.  I spent time looking at myself in the mirror and reminding myself that I look a lot like many of the gorgeous fatties on blogs like this, and if I can think they’re beautiful, then there’s no reason I can’t be, too.  

Deliberate media immersion is the other half of this - you’ve got step one by finding this blog.  Follow us, follow fyeahchubbyfashion, follow…idk I can’t think of my favorite FA blogs right now, but find them, follow them, bask in a steady stream of images of fat people doing cool stuff and looking good doing it, roll around in those images and swim in them until they slowly, slowly, bit by bit by piece by minute by hour by day start to outweigh the counter-flood of negative representation in the mainstream media.  

It will take time.  It will not be fast or easy necessarily.  There will be days where you genuinely rock the fuck out and strut down the street without even noticing if there are negative looks coming your way because you genuinely don’t care.  There will be days where you’re telling yourself “head up, stand tall, fuck them if they don’t like you what does their opinion matter to your life anyway, pretend you’re walking hand in hand with [sexy favorite celebrity of your choice] and everyone’s just jealous” and forcing yourself to look calm and disinterested or happy or whatever image you want to project, while you’re just trying to hold yourself together inside.  There will be days where you can’t manage even that much and hide yourself behind sunglasses and music playing in your earbuds as a barrier between you and the world.  Even the most confident of us have those days too.  Don’t beat yourself up for “failing” to be confident.  Be gentle with yourself - you can’t hate yourself into happiness.  

Any time you start talking shit to yourself, stop and ask yourself if you’d say that to your favorite FA blogger or fatshion blogger.  If you wouldn’t, why not?  And why are you willing to say it to yourself, then?  

Time.  Practice.  Work.  Positive media saturation.  Sheer force of FUCK YOU.  And lots of patience while you work through it.

Go forth and be the fucking amazing motherfucker I know you can be.

11:08 am, question from Anonymous, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 115

what's wrong with being chubby and having smaller breasts?


…no…thing…?  I don’t think either the ask or my response said anything about that being a bad thing?  But it’s a fact that a lot of people assume that fat = big breasts, and so it seemed worth addressing imo.  

10:57 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 11

I've asked myself countless times, why there are so many fat women with small breasts? I thought breast tissue was basically fatty tissue.. so if you gain/loose weight, the breasts will be the first to gain/loose mass. I for one am a 40DD now that I'm fat. When I was of 'normal' weight (120lb) I had an 26 A-B breast. Or does this have to do with the different kinds of weight distribution? female (bust, ass, thighs), male (stomach)? Tumblr science people, where are you? :D


I don’t think it’s so much a gendered thing as it just is…body types.  People have bodies.  They come in all kinds of shapes and whatnot.  My breasts did get somewhat bigger when I gained weight, but I already had big boobs to start with - 36DDD, now an F.  Which is probably more genetics than anything - lots of large-busted people in my family.  But even within the family, my aunties are fat with thin fingers and wear the same ring sizes they did when they were thin, while my mom and I gain weight all over - I’ve gone up two ring sizes between being 150lbs and 200lbs.  And I’ve known people with the opposite, skinny with chubby fingers.  And then there are people who are skinny with large breasts, to go back to the boob size question.  

So I don’t think we need to involve science tumblr really.  It’s just, yes, breasts are mainly fat, but one fatty tissue is not exactly the same as the other, and different bodies develop and add fat in different places for their own genetic reasons.  For some, breasts will be the first place that sees a change in size with a change in overall body fat; for others, there won’t be a change at all.

Bodies, man.  They’re kind of a trip if you think about it.

- Jadelyn

(Can we not with the “normal” weight thing though?  Even in quotation marks like that, it’s still just a silly phrase.  There’s no such thing as a normal weight.  If a person weighs it, it’s probably basically normal for that person’s body.  It seems like a small thing, but language matters - to define a single weight range as “normal” inherently marks anything outside those ranges as deviant and othered, which is how we end up with the whole fat discrimination thing.  Change language, change the world.  Though that may just be the ex-linguist in me talking.)

10:39 pm, question from i-will-never-be-ginger, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 18

hi!! i don't know if you guys take requests or not, but i was wondering if you could post some pictures of fat girls w blue hair? i've been looking for some recently but i can't find many out there :c


Hey, followers, are any of you a fat gal with blue hair and want to submit a pic???

05:34 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 11

Do you guys have any clothes swap events happening in the New York area? Does the philly event cater to people outside of philly?


You’d have to check out their FB page or ask wtfplus, who was the source of the post.  As for other events, we’re not running or hosting them, so I can’t really say what is or isn’t out there, sorry.  But if anyone has links to other plus size clothing swaps, we’d love to have them to pass along!  

11:53 pm, question from juniperbean, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 2

I'm getting married in a few months and have a gorgeous dress. But I don't really have a waist in it. I was wondering of anyone could suggest some inexpensive corsets for me.


Unfortunately, “inexpensive” and “corset” are not words often found together, especially in plus sizes.  I don’t have any resources to offer, but I’m opening this up to the masses - followers, any suggestions?

07:41 pm, question from wings-and-anchors, answered by fuckyeahfatpositive 26